My Philosophy

What you can expect from me throughout your case.

Common Sense
Honesty
Efficiency

By applying these three components to each of my family law cases, the process is less stressful and the outcome more favorable.


Common Sense

Approaching a case with common sense based upon knowledge of the law and experience in family law is a critical part of how I handle a case. Employing a thoughtful and logical approach ensures I have made and will continue to make a proper assessment of the strengths and weaknesses of your case. This will form the basis for the decisions we will make as a team, particularly when difficult circumstances present themselves, as they often do in family law cases.

While an assertive, and sometimes aggressive, approach may be appropriate, a quiet, thoughtful approach may be just as or more effective before a family court judge. Judges are more apt to listen to a thoughtful and constructive attorney, rather than an attorney who rants and raves. Needless arguments are not favored by family court judges. They have heard every imaginable argument. As such, every move we make has the potential to influence the judge one way or the other, and it is the judge who makes the ultimate decisions in a case when it cannot be settled.

Honesty

The second component is honesty, particularly in the attorney-client relationship. Your best interest is served by an attorney who is willing to give you an honest assessment of your case, including providing information about the probable outcomes, and what will be most important for the court to hear. This means that sometimes I have to deliver news and information to you that you don’t necessarily want to hear, but that is the honest way to discuss your case, and to have an open and honest attorney-client relationship. As part of that relationship, it is your responsibility to be candid with me about any negative facts your spouse will bring up as part of the proceedings, primarily so that I am not surprised by those allegations, particularly at the time of a court appearance, and so that we have an opportunity to prepare for those claims. Surprises can hurt your case.

Efficiency

Finally, each case will be approached by me in a financially reasonable and efficient manner. I will counsel you not to waste our time and your money on unnecessary or extraneous issues, but to focus on the most important issues, and the most effective way to reach a resolution of those issues.

However, you should be aware that while we can engage in a common sense, honest and efficient relationship, we are only part of the process. We have to deal with the court system and its rules, and sometimes more significantly, with adversaries who don’t share the principles I have outlined herein. Unfortunately, there are times when unnecessary advocacy by the other side can lead to inefficiencies over which we have no control. Nevertheless, I will do my best to advocate positions and methods which will get us to our desired results, as I guide you through these tough and uncertain times.

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Robert B. Relph

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